Try to remember when you were first so full of hopes and happiness about your brand new relationship. You felt that everything was going to be just great forever, and that nothing could get in the way of this happiness. But then everything just fell apart within the blink of an eye. Or maybe you were in a relationship and you thought that everything was going fine, but then your partner suddenly left.
Why does this happen? Why do such unpleasant surprises ever happen to begin with? Why can't we fix our relationships and why do they go south? In this video, I will explain to you the basic mistakes that you should never make while in a relationship and I’ll show you what you should know to keep your relationship happy and healthy. So watch this video to the end, as it will be very useful to you someday in your life. Here is some dating advice.
The first mistake that a lot of people make (and I admit, I've made such mistakes myself) is to compare your current partner with your former ones. Say you've met a girl and you start comparing her to your ex-girlfriends. Well, of course, you wouldn’t do it out loud, that would be absolutely awful. I mean, when you think "This is what she is now, but my last girlfriend was different" "She's doing this thing this way while my ex did it that way." This is absolutely terrible and should never be done. The problem here is this: all of our memories always seem better to us than they really were. We tend to romanticize our past experiences.
We tend to believe that the grass was greener earlier on and that our exes were better than who we are with now. And any comparisons we're making today will lose for sure.
So why do people fall into a vicious circle at all when they can't find love? They find a romantic partner and very soon split with them. Then the cycle repeats. This is because they start comparing him/her with their former partners. And it's especially dangerous if you had a first love, which you still can't forget about and let go. You form a perfect image in your mind and you'll always look for someone who will match this ideal image and will always compare it with this virtual ideal partner who doesn’t exist. All people are unique. Everyone has his/her pros and cons. So, never compare, live in the present.
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